[Brocklesnar03]

You have a valid point w/ her ignoring the flowers and not calling back, but somehow I got the feeling her mother had a strong influence in her not responding and not calling me back, otherwise, I think she would have. I understand her mother is always going to be a significant part of her life, but the fact is, she has her daughter controlled like a puppet, and she’s the puppetmaster and it’s absolutely ridiculous that a 26 year old young woman cant think for herself and has to always have her mothers approval/input on every issue in her life. I know I need to make peace w/ her mother, which I will in time. The fact of the matter is that her Mom was never really sold on the idea that I was perfect for her daughter. She seems to think her daughter can do better, which in her “elitist & greedy” point of view, means she can find someone else “better” (which means simply someone w/ a solid, secure 6 figure income). She thinks her daughter was a step above me b/c they lived in a privledged, nice upper-middle class area and they have a property worth $1Mil and I’m from a modest, blue-collared background where I was taught the that everything u get in life is earned and not handed to you. The fact is her Mom deliberately degraded and insulted not only me but my family as well one day at her house and 3 days later she leaves a phony, poor-attempt of an apology on my voicemail that I knew wasn’t very sincere. She wasn’t sorry about what she said, which it seemed like she meant….she was only sorry that it came out in the heat of that moment and was only apologizing b/c of how upset her daughter got in the aftermath. Trust me, this lady is far from a saint. She’s an absolute control freak that takes no prisoners! It’s going to be very difficult to get her to loosen her tight grip she’s got on her daughter, but again that’s something i’ll have to deal w/ after step 1. Step 1 is getting back in contact w/ her DAUGHTER 1st, not her mother. Quite frankly, I can forgive her mom for what she said, and do what needs to be done to restore the relationship, but I’m never going to forget it so I’ve got my guard up from now on.

that being said, would u suggest, I still go ahead and write the letter 1st?? and if so, should it be a couple pages or should I just keep it short and to the point and see how she responds?? Or on the contrary, should I try to reach out to her mom 1st and try my best to make peace w/ her, this way she won’t interfere w/ any contact I try to make w/ her daughter????

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