Maria – I feel so sorry for you. I don’t know what to say except that if it’s not really happening down there, YOU need to make some changes. He’s not going to. My husband is barely 5 inches erect and not very big around, and we have a wonderful sex life together although I was disappointed at first. Just because he’s small or short doesn’t mean he will be a bad lover. I know from experience. There are lots of thing you can do to have a happy sex life with your husband without having direct intercourse, and usually direct intercourse is just the icing on the cake (well, for me anyway). Good luck.