well, i was right, i got a text today that said “i need to spend some time at my work this weekend. i think we need to slow down.”
does this mean take a hike or should i wait a couple of weeks and call or what?
she was very receptive to me and from the second date we kissed tentatively multiple times. not as passionately as i would have liked. you know like the kind of kisses that are hard to break and leave you with a feeling it was as hard to stop for her as it was for you, but you knew/know if you continued it would surely lead to somthing else.
i kind of get the feeling she hasn’t written me totally off, but i feel like i am dangling on a cliff.
most of the dates i have been on of late, even if they never totally worked out, the ladies kisses were very passionate and they have all told me that i am a great kisser. that came totally spontaneously from all of them. it was not a posed question, so i am at a loss. this lady could really break my heart and it has killed any desire on my part for any of the other women who are interested in me and i have to say that lately i seem to be enjoying the attention of several women and it seems more all the time. almost as if they can sense each other or something. i have been offered the NSA types of relationships and i have no desire to soley satisfy a sexual need. i am looking for a long term relationship with genuine feelings from a together lady who doesn’t have some type of alternative agenda. one who likes me for me and accepts me like i am.
i thought that was her, because she genuinely enjoyed doing the things that i like to do and seemed sincere about that. she has her own home, her kids are grown and gone, like mine. and she doesn’t need my money nor is she in need of male attention. she is a 12 in anyones book. she expressed an interest in developing a similar type of relationship and like me suffered through a bad marriage and in her case a husband who did not appreciate her and cheated on her. i am not that and never would be and she said she thought she was looking for the same things i was.
i did mention that i was the kind of man who liked to take care of his woman and do nice things for her, that it gave me pleasure to do nice things for her and make her happy. really not what i would normally discuss on a third date, but it came up and i went with my gut in being myself and not holding back.
i really need to know what my next move should be, if any, as i left it at ” i need to spend more time with my daughter and some really pressing issues with my house to deal with, so even though i am going to miss spending time with you, i am not going anywhere. call me when you think it’s right and i’ll be here. i didn’t mean to come on so strong. don’t write me off just yet, okay.” she wrote back “thanks for understanding.” and that’s it.
am i toast or what?
i am really anxious about this. i haven’t felt or acted this way since i was 16 or 17 and i don’t like not being in control of the situation. HELP!
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