Thanks so much for your advice.
Apologies. To clarify, I’m 28 and my boyfriend is 26. We used to have a fairly reasonable sex life, especially considering we both live in separate, shared houses. He shies away from talking about sex in a close way but speaks about it flippantly and coarsely with his friends (and holds little back to the point that I’m sometimes offended by his comments). My past has been rather unpleasant at times, including abuse as a child but I have come through so much and feel I can trust him implicitly: I’m 98% sure he’s not getting it anywhere else. I am concerned about the possibility of something medical being the reason. He had surgery when he was only about 5 years old but seems more than ok in requesting I pleasure him orally. He’s prone to laziness so I end up feeling like he just can’t be bothered with making the effort when it comes to me. There’s very little tenderness, certainly in comparison to the way I see my friends with their partners. I’m trying to work out now if he is just selfish?!
Thanks again for your help.
