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August 29, 2010 at 11:01 pm #2958
April Masini
KeymasterFirst of all, don’t worry about the fact that you haven’t had a first kiss just yet. It is what it is, and you can’t change that. So relax. Second of all, DO NOT tell a guy who is going to kiss you that you’ve never had a kiss before. Trust me. Just don’t. There is no reason for you to say anything at all except that you’re super anxious, and telling him is going to take his mind off his mood of wanting to kiss you and make him start worrying about your anxiety and, well, it’ll just kill the kissing buzz. So say nothing.
Third, don’t prepare. Don’t practice. Instead, let the man take the lead. Trust that the guy you’re with will want to kiss you enough that he’s going to do so, and all you have to do is be willing. Relax and let him run the show. You’ll find that your own kiss is very special and not like anyone else’s. You’ll develop your own kissing style that is different for every man you’re with because each man is different, too.
I hope that helps.
Let me know how things go.
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[url]http://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/think-and-date-like-a-man.html [/url] September 1, 2010 at 6:29 pm #15749crazed-driver
ParticipantI think this post is going to get a mixed reaction. Unexperianced women will like this piece of advice and will move on with their lives and won’t let this bother them. However I think any unexperianced guys will feel worse after reading it as it more or less says, “women don’t panic as its the guys job to lead you, etc” September 2, 2010 at 11:15 am #15723KeymasterSorry, [b]crazed-driver[/b] , but it hasn’t gotten a mixed reaction! If YOU have a negative reaction,[i]you[/i] should cop to it. I love hearing from you, and your popular and often heard comments have given me a chance to get to know you better, and one of the things YOU do is to make things about other people instead of about yourself. You talk about “other people” instead of yourself and you ask academic questions instead of personal ones.😉 Hey there — I’m paying attention to you!!🙂 YOU have a confidence challenge when it comes to women, and trying to impose the responsibility for what is a man’s job (like making the first move) on women, is just going to defer that problem and cause derivative issues down the way. The bottom line is that men DO have a typical role in relationships (and while that is not ALWAYS the case, it USUALLY is, which is why my advice USUALLY works).
You don’t seem to take my advice, but you keep challenging it. I’ve asked you to buy and read Date Out of Your League, a book I’ve written for men who want to win at dating and GET the girl!! Here’s that link (again!):
[url]http://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/date-out-of-your-league.html [/url] I can’t help you if you don’t want to help yourself. C’mon!! Read the book. Join Facebook. Stop lurking on the periphery of dating. Jump in and get your feet wet. Relationships are wonderful, but you have to DO THE WORK and not just philosophize about what could or would happen if you did this, that or the other thing!
🙂 Here’s that Facebook link, and I hope that you’ll join me there:
[url]http://www.facebook.com/group.php?gid=110265355684755&ref=mf [/url] September 2, 2010 at 12:55 pm #15760ParticipantI didnt get any reaction, only yours. You say reading my comments, etc makes you feel like you’re getting to know me. Not sure I want to know the answer to this, but apart from making things about others and not myself and being a bit opinionated (as I know you think this already). What do you think of me or better still what do you think of my potential? (Or do you need to know more about me before you answer that 😕 )
What do you mean by asking[b][color=#FF0000]personal[/color] [/b] questions. What sort of questions should I be asking?Mainly women yes as I feel psyking yourself up works on everything apart from getting success with women. Even though I knew that ages ago. I just wondered why thats all, which is why I asked on here about it. You should create a feedback section on here for previous/current memebers for them to give you feedback as not only will they get chance to say thank you and you’ll feel good for helping them, but others can see what their problems were in the first place and it saves them posting the same messege several times and you dont have to repeat yourself.
Is that when i’m leading up to it, during or after doing those things,(Sex/Kissing)?
You have so many pages on Facebook, have I joined the right one
😕 September 3, 2010 at 1:39 pm #15403KeymasterOf course you have potential — everybody has potential. What I’d like to see you have is not potential — because potential isn’t what makes relationships work — but experiences in relationships that lead you to Ms. Right. The questions you seem to ask are academic and aren’t about a real life relationship in the moment you’re in it. Those are the things that most people here come to me for help with, and what I’m best at. I appreciate your wanting a special feedback section, but I feel that I get PLENTY of feedback right here on this forum! Thanks for thinking of me, though!
🙂 September 3, 2010 at 9:02 pm #15882ParticipantWhat you mean everybody does 😕 Plus you havent seen my behaviour around women (the ones that iI want to pick up) or how I look, etc😕 You didnt answer me when I asked you, what sort of questions should I be asking as I thought I was being personal, but you thought I werent?
Plus you said that buying your book, will make me feel better about kissing, sex, etc. What do you mean by that, do you mean whilst i’m doing it, building up to it or afterwards?
I was thinking of you/me/current and future posters when i said that.
September 3, 2010 at 9:04 pm #15883ParticipantDid my last post come up then, didnt get a confirmation 😕 September 4, 2010 at 8:38 pm #15870Keymaster[b]Crazed-driver[/b] , I really meant it when I said that you should read Date Out of Your League. I wish you’d buy it and read it. Here’s the link[url]http://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/date-out-of-your-league.html [/url] Please buy and read the book.
September 4, 2010 at 9:01 pm #15613ParticipantI clicked on that link and I had a look at the chapters and looked on what you wrote as a preview on it and even though it does touch one issue with me, which is confidence. I know all the other parts of it I follow (going by all the chapters that you’ve listed and spoke about). I could be wrong, but I didnt see a chapter on how to improve your confidence when it came to kissing or being in the bedroom. Which is why I think women run a mile as they only want a bloke with confidence dont they. September 6, 2010 at 10:55 am #15768KeymasterThe book, Date Out of Your League, will give you tools and advice that will in turn give you the confidence because you will have those tools and advice and because as you use them you will begin to have more and more positive experiences that will naturally give you confidence. Please stop stalling and do the work. Buy the book. Read it. Practice what is in it. Here’s the link: [url]http://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/date-out-of-your-league.html [/url] 😉 Of COURSE women want men with experience, and that’s not just in relationships. As we all get older we want people around us who have experience, expertise, self knowledge — and that’s in friendships, professional relationships and best buddies.
Face the music and do the work!
🙂 September 6, 2010 at 9:44 pm #15973ParticipantIs this what saying? i’ll make it look like a math sum. Buying the book = Advancing ones knowledge, which means after a few attempts you’ll definately succeed that = Getting confidence and that = My mind going blank when it comes to thoughts (negative ones so i’ll act how a normal person would and that = me just making the right moves (whether its kissing techniques or being more intimate physically or even if its just telling them how i feel) and as by then i’ve got the confidence and doing the stuff without even thinking and treating it like if its like something you do in everyday life. And doing all that = success.
Is that right or is there more to it thats in the book?
January 23, 2016 at 11:34 pm #32152KeymasterLet me know how things are going for you? 😉 -
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