[bluehonesty]

I dated this guy a few times but never really felt the sparks I wanted too….so after explaining thais too him and also telling him I think I am just not ready for a serious relationship yet, we decided to remain friends. We still talk on the phone and are friendly but it is just not as intense. Well I had a birthday in March and he mailed me 100.00 dallors as a gift…….I cashed the check but now feel guitly for doing so cause he forever keeps calling and texting me, he wants to be more than just friends but I do not. I dont wanna hurt his feeling but feel tied to him now alittle cause of the gift……what do I do?

[April Masini]

I am a firm believer in living by the Golden Rule: “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.”

More, I think that people get into the most trouble when they do not listen to that ‘little voice’, and yours is telling you something… Listen to it.

My recommendation is that you write a little note to this guy explaining that while you sincerely appreciate his thoughtfulness, you do not want to mislead him by accepting his very generous gift. Further, you hope that you can continue to enjoy the wonderful friendship you have with him…. Or something along those lines.

There is never a wrong time to do the right thing and the integrity you will be demonstrating will be returned to you in spades.

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