[April Masini]

You didn’t mention how long ago this incident happened, but regardless, you need to report the incident to the police and tell them that you lied to the doctors about how the break happened. This guy needs help, and until you fess up he’s at risk of doing to other women what he’s done to you. You didn’t protect him. You enabled him.

I’m not sure why you think protecting him is the right thing to do, but I have a feeling that you know you did the wrong thing, and that is part of what is gnawing away at you. I have no [i]idea[/i] 😯 why your family is harboring this lie while you were seriously injured and this guy is still out there wrestling women (trust me — he is). It seems like somehow your family decided [i]you[/i] were guilty and [i]you caused him[/i] to break your leg. This is pretty sick thinking. 🙄

Consider other times in your life when you’ve protected people who’ve hurt you and you may find the answer to why you’re still doing it.

[April Masini]

Your family’s logic is of concern. 😕

No one was going to deny you medical care under these circumstances. It doesn’t matter if you drank, were sober or slapped him first. He broke your leg and you needed surgery. That surgery was going to happen and you were going to get your medical care regardless of your lying or telling the truth about what happened. What on earth do you think you and your family were “risking”? 😯 What is the logic in your not getting insured medical care in this scenario? If you break a leg, I would think your medical insurance would automatically cover your expenses. Your excuses don’t make sense to me. 🙁

I don’t care if his family is Lebanese or Martians — you can’t fall victim to bullies or vigilante law. This dynamic is the way slums develop and work. By letting him get away with this YOU are partly responsible for his next victim if there is one. When you don’t do the right thing, you become part of the wrong thing. That’s what you did and that’s what is eating away at you.

You are 21 years old, and if your family doesn’t back you up, that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t do the right thing. You have to live your own life and define your own character. This guy’s lawyer uncle may have made threats to you to stop you from pressing charges, but threats are just bully tactics — and you allowed him to bully you into doing the wrong thing.

Talk to a lawyer. Call the police anonymously and ask their advice without giving your name — do your homework if you’re scared — and find out what exactly your real life exposure is rather than just playing the victim role. I really think that if you take charge of your life, and try to fix the mistakes you made, you’re going to feel a lot better.

[April Masini]

You’ve gotten some bad information, and while I am not a lawyer, I can advise you to check this out:

First of all, if you go to the police where the event happened, [i]the state[/i] you live in will press charges —[i] not you[/i]. The police will decide if THEY think there is a case or not and they will turn it over to their attorneys who are paid to keep citizens safe. [b]It will not cost you a dime.[/b] You will not be a plaintiff in the case — just a witness. The state will be the one to press charges — and this could be a felony, but they have to decide. It is not too late to do this, but you do have to act. This is one way for you to protect future victims of this guy, and often in cases like this, former victims start to come forward.

Second of all, if you want to be compensated for your pain and suffering (YOU have a lot of money to be gained here as a victim of violence, which is why this guy’s family was so quick to bully you into not pressing charges. They have a LOT to lose.) you have to file a civil suit with a contingency fee attorney who charges you NOTHING up front and takes a third of whatever he gets you as his payment.

You’re 21 years old and it’s time for you to stand on your own two feet. Stop hiding behind your family’s fear. It’s becoming contagious and living in fear is a sure fire way to miss out on all life has to offer you.

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