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At the beginning of my 8 month relationship with my GF. My GF told me that she was a virgin and that she wanted to wait until we get married to have sex. I told my GF that I wasn’t a virgin but, I lied to my GF about the amount of people I had sex with. I told her 2 when there was 8. When ask did I have an STD? I said no! because I was tested before I started the relationship with her and that’s TRUE!! My GF and I were in love from a long distance she let me meet her family, she felf as though I was truly something special. We still haven’t had sex. At the 8 month mark I started telling myself how can I love her if I lied to her. So, I told the truth and she hated me for it. She said she never wants to speak again. It took a full month until things start getting ok. Now things are getting better but she doesn’t want to get in a relationship with me because she feel as though I would lie to her again. Also, she feelings that she really haven’t been doing alot of dating and she wants to see whats out there. We are now friends but it feels like a relationship.Should we be friends? I still call her everyday and she likes it when I call. Is there still hope in our relationship? Also, our relationship is long distance which means I only see her like every 3 months. I don’t know what to do. I really love her and she recently told me she loves me too. Maybe because I made a surprise visit to her on valentine’s day.

[April Masini]

Well, I think that there are two big issues here…

First, is this statement: “she feels that she really has not done a lot of dating and she wants to see whats out there.”

And the second is: “Our relationship is long distance which means I only see her like every 3 months.”

Based upon your email, you both sound very, very young to me. That said, honestly, I agree with your former girlfriend that she needs to date other people and see what’s out there. What’s more is, I believe you should be doing the same thing too.

Regarding the second issue… Quite frankly, I am not sure why either of you would elect to be in a relationship whereby you can only see each other once every three months (unless one or both of you are in the military)? Long distance relationships are very difficult to maintain and (generally speaking) only work out when one of the parties plans to move to where the other is.

My suggestion would be for you to find someone to date closer to home.

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