I’ve been really good friends with this girl for almost 10 years now. Over the past few months we have started to experience feelings for each other. We talked about it a few weeks ago and decided to just take things slow and to let what happens happens. A few nights ago we were a little drunk and after some encouraging from her friend i finally made my move and made out with her. We were in her room for close to an hour. We eventually went back out to the party and continued to party for a few more hours. Once everyone left we went back into her bedroom where we kissed a little more and i eventually passed out spooning with her. I woke up the next morning and everything seemed to be going great. I was really excited that things were finally progressing to the next level. We really didn’t talk much about it that morning because there were a few other people over that had passed out there.
That night i texted her and asked her if she wanted to go get coffee or lunch the next day. She texted me back and said, “Is this you wanting to talk about it 🙂” I told her yes to which she responded, “I knew it!” and that that ya she would meet me. The next morning she texted me and said that she wouldn’t be able to make it and that she was really sorry. I told her no problem and that we could just do it later.
The next day I went over to her place to get this over with and to my surprise her friend was over so i didn’t really feel comfortable going through with it. We talked a little bit in her room just about what had happened that night and that was it. So after i left i texted her again and told her that i didn’t really get to say what i wanted to because of her friend being there. She responded and asked what it was that i wanted to say. I told her that i liked her and that i thought that nothing that happened that night was weird to me (because of the whole friend thing) and i asked if she wanted to go out on a date sometime. Her response was that i was her best friend and that she didn’t want that to get messed up at all and that she didn’t think it was a good idea. I told her that was fine and that i would rather we talk about it in person. She said that that was fine and i told her to have a good night. So the next day rolls around and I text her to go hang out and to ask if it was ok to talk later that night after i got off of work. She texted me back and said that there wasn’t really anything to talk about. I didn’t want to piss her off or anything so i told her that it was fine.
I went over and hung out with her and have hung out with her quite a few times since and nothing seems to be awkward and it’s almost like nothing happened. So today i talked to her friend who i’m also friends with to get some insight as to what was going on and to just make sure that i didn’t do anything to make her mad. She assured me that i didn’t do anything to make anyone mad. She also told me that it was the fact that i waited too long to talk to her and that she was hung up on the fact that we had been friends for so long. She even went as far as to say that she didn’t think anything would ever come out of this.
First off, what do you think i should do? There is clearly some strong chemistry going on between the two of us and I really don’t want to give up this easy. I know that there is something still there between us. Should i just give it some time? And is there anything I can do to overcome the fact that i waited too long and and that she is hung up on the fact that we have been friends for so long?
I am totally fine if this ends up with the two of us just staying friends but at the same time i really want to see if things could work between the two of us.
April Masini.
