[April Masini]

Go get him!! 😀

The two of you clearly have feelings for each other as well as compatibility. Your misunderstandings in the beginning of your relationship were unfortunate, but neither one of you are married, so you’re both fair game.

My suggestion is to turn up your best flirtatious self, while balancing that vixen with character. Understand that there is a strong chance he may be dating others, and may continue to do so even if you hook up, because the two of you live in different cities. He isn’t monogamous — [i]until he is[/i] monogamous — in other words, he thinks it’s fair game to date around even if you’re interested in someone — and there’s nothing wrong with that for him. Just don’t pull the wool over your own eyes and get hurt. If you can handle the game — play to win! But know that you’re dealing with someone urbane and assertive about going after what he wants. Now….give him something to go after, big time!

[April Masini]

Keep your eye on the ball. Decide what you want in your life. I don’t know how old you are or how old he is and I don’t know whether you want a boyfriend for fun or a husband to marry. Regardless of what it is: FOCUS!

I appreciate your wanting to live every moment, but if you want a husband and you want him, don’t give up on that goal of him as your husband. Long distance relationships CAN work and there CAN be monogamy within them if both people are committed. So balance reality with what you want for yourself and if he falls into both of those categories — a realistic boyfriend and a realistic potential husband — don’t sell yourself short. 🙂

[April Masini]

I still say go for it!

I’ve read your post about the guy who broke your leg and how you didn’t tell the police he did so and when I read this post after that one, I think you have a tendency to not step up to the plate — whether it’s doing the right thing for others or yourself.

Low self esteem is at the bottom of this problem, so focus on that and continue to push out of what you think your comfort zone is and do the right thing every time. One day you may have a daughter and you’ll want her to do the right thing for others as well as for herself. Start practicing to be the person worthy of that daughter, today.

This guy sounds great; he’s single; so are you. You have a real connection — you can balance your career and a relationship. Go, go, go!!

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