[LittleJane]

I’ve been seeing my boyfriend for 9months now, he’s 23 and i’m almost 19. We’ve been using condoms so far but I’ve been on the pill since I was 18. Condoms are an issue since he only fits the large size, when I put a normal sized one on him it often breaks straight away or looks like it digs into his skin too much. We often use the large ones but they’re a hassle to find in our local chemist, some of the ‘large’ sizes are actually normal sized compared to other brands also. He fits these ones ok but even the large ones ride up and cause me pain. He seems to embarrased to admit he’s got a large penis incase it seems like boasting, but I think we need to give up comdoms now anyway, especially since we’ve only even slept with each other so catching anything is safe, and i’m on the pill. However, he’s worried about finishing inside me and thinks there’s still a chance i’ll get pregnant. I know there is a chance but I want to tell him it’s very very unlikely. I dont want to force him into it but he’s told me he wants to stop using them as much as I am. He just needs a little bit more encouragement, how do I do it?

[April Masini]

Well, honestly, I am hard pressed to try to convince someone not to use a condom… Even if there is a small chance of pregnancy (or a STD), there is still a (small) chance. And heaven forbid you should become one of those rare cases, I would not want to feel responsible.

That said, there are tons of places that sell X-Large condoms online. Perhaps you could look into ordering them there? Here are two links:

[LittleJane]

I know you don’t want to feel responsible for anyway, but surely people in long relationships just rely on the pill. We’re both clean from STDs, do most girls in long relationships let their boyfriends finish inside them?

I dont want to have to rely on websites to keep ordering bigger condoms either. I hate that they arent as common as normal sized ones… why is this?

[April Masini]

I would have to say that, yes, generally speaking people in a long term, committed, relationship do. However, if your boyfriend is apprehensive — I don’t feel right about pushing him into going without a condom. (Perhaps he, or someone he knows, had a bad experience?)

As far as why they don’t sell large condoms as often as regular size… I think the answer to that is self evident. If there was as great a demand, they’d offer them because they’d want to sell them. (Stores want to make money after all.) Your boyfriend is not the norm and is (some would say) gifted in this area. 😀 Perhaps they don’t want “small” to “average” guys to feel bad about not being as “gifted”? 😉

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