You need to come from a position of strength and you are coming from a position of weakness — crying and asking him for more time, as if you are the supplicant. If the situation were reversed, you might feel turned off by the neediness of the other person and want to withdraw or spend time away from them. Being with someone isn’t a numbers game — how much time is spent together — rather it’s the quality of the time not the quantity that’s important. Remember that you two are dating — and make sure it’s fun! Then you don’t have to ask for more time — he’ll just want more! 😀
You say you sulk and cry and shut yourself off and you aren’t the easiest person to be with. 😳 Not exactly a picture of someone who most people would want to spend time with. [b][i][u]Change yourself, not him.[/u][/i][/b] Start planning more time with your girlfriends. Take a class. Get interested in yourself and your life. Schedule one less get-together with him a week so you have more time to develop your pursuits. Be [i]authentically[/i] busy with your life. And don’t talk to him about it anymore — just do it — casually, charmingly and nicely. He doesn’t have to know your every thought about him and the relationship and about your plans. 💡
Just let go a tiny little bit. You sell yourself short by saying you think you are an obligation to him. You then start to focus on that and communicate that’s what you are. You are not an obligation — but really, it’s dating — just remember to keep it light and keep it fun. The rest will fall into place.
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