No, you’re not wrong to be annoyed by this, but you really sunk yourself in a hole by tolerating it for six years! Clearly, your girlfriend is not going to change. The real question is, will you? 😮 It’s time for you to move on. She doesn’t share your values and the discrepancy between your characters and your lifestyle goals is so great that you’re going to be miserable and resentful in the long run. This kind of dynamic results in blame, acting out and chronic fighting.
Accept who she is and understand that you’re not compatible. You can love someone, but you’re not doing them any favors if you’re enabling unhealthy behavior. I know it’s hard for you to do this, but you have to move on and stop wasting your time and hers.
I hope that helps, and that you’ll let me know how things go.
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