[April Masini, your AskApril]

You wrote that you’re bitter and that you’ve invested so much energy trying to turn him into the man you thought he could be. 😯 After six years of dating he’s still living at his parents’ house, works 60 hours a week and doesn’t have time for you, and has cheated on you once a year — that you know of. 🙁

Your feelings of hurt and bitterness are guides. They’re trying to tell you that you’re in a bad relationship. A good relationship shouldn’t leave you feeling hurt and bitter. The fact that you’re starting to go out with friends because he’s too busy on a Friday night to see you, and you’ve developed feelings for another man who seems to be crushing on you, is the beacon you should follow.

Your boyfriend is probably cheating on you more than you’re willing to admit, and he’s certainly not acting like he’s ready to be in a serious relationship with you after six years — and he doesn’t even seem to value you very much. My advice is to let go of the relationship and watch the bitter feelings be replaced by relief.

You should also read Think & Date Like A Man, [url]https://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/think-and-date-like-a-man.html[/url] so you have a better idea of how to find Mr. Right and not waste any more time on the wrong guy! 😀

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