[April Masini, your AskApril]

You said that this jealousy you’re having started “lately” which means you’ve had 8 or 9 good months before these feelings popped up. It sounds like something is going on internally, within yourself, that is making you think about his cheating. I have to ask you to look in the mirror and consider what is bothering you that is bringing up these feelings.

You mentioned that you dated your last boyfriend of five years way past the relationship’s “expiration date” and ended up cheating on him instead of maturely breaking up with him first. Are you having feelings that your current relationship is starting to run on fumes and you’re projecting your feelings of discontent and your old behavior of cheating to end a relationship, onto your boyfriend?

You’ll have to dig deep within yourself to figure this one out because it seems like an internal — not a relationship problem.

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