I don’t think you’re in over your head in this relationship because you seem very articulate about what you like and what you dislike here. The problem is that he doesn’t appear to be someone he says he is. He may say he wants a serious relationship, but he’s also told you he has lots of sexual partners and a lifestyle that supports that type of relationship behavior. You’re confused because you’re not sure he’s willing and able to do what he says he wants to do. I know you want an instant answer on this, but your suggestion that you wait until he comes back and see what happens is a good one. Let him be the guy in this relationship (read Think & Date Like A Man for your best dating results — you can get it at Barnes & Noble, Amazon or onlin here: [url]https://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/think-and-date-like-a-man.html[/url]). If he wants to pursue you, he will. If you see a change in his behavior, then know that he was not only sincere in his desire to suddenly have a serious relationship, but he is able to do so. If you don’t see a change, then you know he’s not someone who will give you that serious relationship I think you want.
I hope that helps. Let me know if that clears up your confusion and how things go.
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