You’re right–I guess I say he felt like the other guy rather than he WAS the other guy because I knew that I wanted to be with him….I didn’t see him that way.
I normally would not have a talk about the relationship for the exact reason you set out, but I thought that in this situation I needed to let him know a few things. I didn’t ask him any questions or for a response, it was just a calm and short, few minutes talk (although he said he would think about it and get back to me). Maybe it was a mistake, but I was tired of being there for him and getting nothing in return, and wanted to ascertain whether he’s open to the possibility of seeing each other again or not.
Two questions: Since being his friend isn’t what I want, do I tell him as much, or simply leave things? He tends to call me a lot and I would need to say something rather than just avoiding his calls. And if he gets back to me to tell me what he thinks (I’m expecting it will be him saying that he doesn’t want a relationship and that we’re friends), do I just hear him out and not respond right away? Tell him I don’t see him as a friend?
PS–I really appreciate your advice, thank you!
