[April Masini, your AskApril]

You’ve spun this situation to make yourself feel better instead of being straight with yourself. 😳 This guy didn’t just FEEL like the other man — he WAS the other man. You wanted relationship insurance so you held onto your long distance relationship [i]just in case[/i] this one didn’t work out. You didn’t want to end up alone, but the reality is that there is no such thing as relationship insurance. By the time you realized you wanted this new guy, it was too late because he didn’t want to be number two — and that’s what he was.

By the time you realized you’d made some basic mistakes, you tried to fix things with THE TALK. Men NEVER want to have “the talk” about the relationship, and you shouldn’t have to have one. His behavior will show you what the status of the relationship is.

RUN, don’t walk, and buy my book, Think & Date Like A Man!! Actually, there’s no running involved. You can order it online immediately here: [url]https://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/think-and-date-like-a-man.html[/url], or online at Amazon and Barnes & Noble.

I think [b]katballoo[/b] has some valid advice, below.

I don’t think he’s waiting for you or stringing you along. And I don’t think you should stick around as his friend when that’s not what you want. I think you should move on, alone, and if he wants you, he’ll come after you, but you should look forward, not backwards.

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