[April Masini, your AskApril]

The first thing you need to do is stop dating your girlfriend secretly. If she doesn’t care enough you to tell her parents she’s dating you, then you really shouldn’t date her. Why on earth would you date someone who was ashamed of you or wasn’t willing to tell her parents about you? 😕

If she’s too busy with school and you have a good relationship basis to start with, giving her space while she studies for finals wouldn’t be a problem, but your entire relationship is based on secrecy, so giving her space feels like you’re drifting apart. In addition, she’s back and forth with her other boyfriend.

I think that if she’s willing to date you “out of secret” then you can pursue her “normally”, but if she isn’t willing to do that, then there’s not really a relationship to pursue. You’re just her hobby.

I hope that helps. Let me know how things go, and please follow me @AskAprilcom on Twitter and on Facebook at this link: [url][/url]. 😀