[April Masini, your AskApril]

There’s no way around the problem of not meeting men if you stay in your house. You have to get out there and you have to be open when you’re out there. And while it’s great you know your boundaries because that means you won’t waste time with the wrong men, you do have to do a little campaigning in order to be seen as available. If you’re too closed off, you’ll send out the signal that you’re not approachable — no matter how fabulous you are.

It sounds like you have a lot of lines you won’t cross when it comes to men. You know how you DON’T want to be treated and who you DON’T want to date. Maybe it’s time to make a list of those you DO want to date and what kind of behavior you do want, and then turn those do’s into a real person! If you DO want a man with certain types of jobs, then put yourself in a position to meet that type of men. If you DO want a man who is of a certain age or a certain social status, then DO put yourself in a position to meet that type of men.

Dating is an active sport and I know you want love to find you, but I’d encourage you to be a team player — and go find that team of two you want, that’s missing a star member. 😉

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