[Crystal]

My issue is I am not meeting the kind of men that I want to have a relationship with or they live far away…I love being at home so I figure the guy I would like is at home too and that’s the problem. I’ve been married before and single for a long time…I’ve tried EVERYTHING, from dating sites and many other things and I am very happy with my life to be honest with you and am not going to settle for less than what I know I deserve! My friends can’t believe I’m still single (it’s taking a very long time to find the right man for me) but I think that the higher your standards are and the more you know what you want it’s more challenging because you know who you are and how you deserve to be treated…I’m not putting up with bad behavior from anyone! At this point I’m thinking love will have to find me because when I look for it, it just doesn’t happen! The guys I’m meeting are just interested in a fling and I’m not doing it. I’m worth more than that! [color=#8000BF][color=#8040FF][color=#8000BF][/color][/color][/color]Any suggestions? I am a good person and want a real relationship with someone who loves me, why is that like searching for the Holy Grail? Thank you April!

[April Masini, your AskApril]

There’s no way around the problem of not meeting men if you stay in your house. You have to get out there and you have to be open when you’re out there. And while it’s great you know your boundaries because that means you won’t waste time with the wrong men, you do have to do a little campaigning in order to be seen as available. If you’re too closed off, you’ll send out the signal that you’re not approachable — no matter how fabulous you are.

It sounds like you have a lot of lines you won’t cross when it comes to men. You know how you DON’T want to be treated and who you DON’T want to date. Maybe it’s time to make a list of those you DO want to date and what kind of behavior you do want, and then turn those do’s into a real person! If you DO want a man with certain types of jobs, then put yourself in a position to meet that type of men. If you DO want a man who is of a certain age or a certain social status, then DO put yourself in a position to meet that type of men.

Dating is an active sport and I know you want love to find you, but I’d encourage you to be a team player — and go find that team of two you want, that’s missing a star member. 😉

Hope you’ll follow me @AskAprilcom on Twitter. 😀

[Crystal]

Thank you April! I do go out and I have made those lists of what I really want….there is a serious shortage of available fabulous men!!!

[April Masini, your AskApril]

When there is a shortage of something, it becomes more valuable. Don’t let that keep you from finding Mr. Right! You just have to work harder! The pay off is always wonderful when you work hard and get what you want. 😉

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