[April Masini, your AskApril]

Oh, dear. Dear, dear, dear…. 😕 Of course age is just a number, and relationships with bigger age gaps than yours can work, but this is not a realistic relationship by a long shot.

First of all, at age 43, if this guy REALLY cared about you, he’d fly out there to see you at least a couple times in 7 months. By age 43, he’s been working for several decades and has enough money to buy plane tickets for him to see you or to fly you to see him. So that’s the first RED flag.

Second, if you’re not attracted to him, AND he doesn’t take you out to dinner or a movie, what’s the point? I mean, you’re 19 years old and beginning your adult life. In fact, in most states you’re not even old enough to drink or rent a car! This has nothing to do with the age gap — it has to do with life experience. You haven’t mentioned anything about him that makes me think you should give up physical attraction for this guy. Physical attraction isn’t everything — but it’s a lot, and it’s important — especially at first.

Third, if he’s never been married by age 43, that’s a huge question mark. And it sounds like you have a bunch of other obstacles you didn’t even bring up.

My advice to you is:

1. End the relationship completely. No friend. No romance. No more internet or phone calls.

2. Start getting out and dating real men in real life.

3. If you meet a man on the internet, whether it’s on a dating site, a game site or a chat room board, don’t MAINTAIN a relationship that is solely on the internet/phone and other electronic and technical devices. If he hasn’t asked to meet you after three weeks of “electronic” communication, move on.

I hope that helps, and that you’ll follow me @AskAprilcom on Twitter. 😀