[April Masini, your AskApril]

I always say you should pay attention to behavior and not so much language, but this guy is giving you stereo with his behavior [i]and[/i] his language. He’s chosen another woman over you who lives 15 hours away. I’d say that’s a pretty good for a commitment-phobe like him. As he told you himself, there’s not a lot to lose with her because she lives so far away.

He may be into you, but he’s not THAT into you that he doesn’t want to date someone else instead…. 😕 You can call his behavior fear based or you can call it choice based or you can call him plain old lazy because it’s a lot easier to romance a woman who’s not around than it is one who’s around and committed.

I think you need to check your mirror. His behavior is so clear, but yours is the behavior that is confusing you. Why are you spending so much time thinking about a man who doesn’t want to date you and has a new girlfriend already? Are YOU looking for a man who’s not available? Because he’s not.

My advice is to find a man who wants to be with you and who wants the same type of commitment you do at the same time. I hope that helps. Let me know how you do. And join me on Facebook! Here’s that link: [url][/url].