I think that this is going to bother you unless it’s out in the open — and the reason you’re not bringing it out in the open is because your side of the street is not completely clean, so to speak. Therefore, the best thing for you to do is to admit to your boyfriend that you did something wrong: you read his e-mail without his knowing, and that you know it was wrong. There’s no point in getting defensive. It’s much better to just come clean and tell him you did something that you shouldn’t have. But then after you’ve said that you need to tell him what you read and ask him what’s going on here?
I can’t imagine anything he’s going to say that is going to put your mind at ease. [b]Beentheredonethat[/b] gave you some good advice, and it’s helpful to hear her point of view. When you write that your relationship is perfect — “other than this” — you’re fooling yourself. If you’re living with a man you’ve been with for over a year and everything is fine — EXCEPT the fact that he’d dump you in a minute if he could sleep with his ex-girlfriend again — I’d say your idea of perfect is a little warped. 😕
Don’t be afraid of reality. It’s much better to know the truth — whatever it may be, now — than to build a house on a shaky foundation that will fall apart easily after you’ve invested so much in it.
Roll up your sleeves and do what you have to do to find out what your relationship with this guy you’re living with is really about.
I hope that helps — and let me know how things go.
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