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It also sounds like you only dated for a month — so it’s not fair for you to blame her for not being into you after a month’s time. It sounds like she got to know you during the month you dated, and decided this wasn’t a relationship she was interested in pursuing. Frankly, she did you a favor by not leading you on and making you think there was more there than she felt. I know you’re hurt, but dating is about getting to know someone and deciding during the process if this is someone you want to continue seeing. A month of dating doesn’t usually lead to an automatic commitment.
Your instinct about your confrontation before the holidays is correct. You came on too strong by forcing the issue. The result was she played her hand, as she held it in that moment. If you’d continued pursuing her without any relationship pressure, she might still be here — on the other hand, you sound like someone who wants to know where they stand and if you don’t like where you think you stand, you want answers. If you can’t loosen up a little and let relationships take their course, then you’ll probably waste less time than other people, but suffer more rejections. That said, I ALWAYS advise readers that rejection can be your friend — not your foe. It saves everyone time by not walking down a path that will lead no where. The best ball players in the major leagues strike out A LOT more often than they hit a grand slam, but when they do connect with the ball….that’s all it takes to make a career. Same goes for dating.
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