Your fiance has been leading a secret life. 😕 It’s one thing to browse through girlie magazines and covet the Playmate of the Month, but it’s another to participate in regular, two-way, live time, mutual sexual activity and represent yourself as available because your relationship is open and not monogamous. 😳 Wake up and smell the coffee!
The fact that you have to ask if this is cheating means you’re looking for a way not to see this clearly because the truth is painful. 😳 I know that our former president swore up, down and sideways that he “did not have sex with that woman” because for him, oral copulation, making out and playing hide the cigar wasn’t “technically” sex, 🙄 but the minute you start asking if something is “technically” cheating, you sound like a lawyer looking for a loophole because you’ve got a big problem on your hands. 😕
It’s time to tell him you know about his secret sex life, and ask him why he’s been hiding it from you. Clearly, you don’t know him as well as you thought you had. You need to listen and hear what he has to say. Then, you need to decide, based on what he says, what is right for you.
But[b] the bigger problem[/b], and this cheating is probably just a symptom of it, is why you’re engaged for four years with no wedding date in sight. 😮 I’m not sure how old you both are, but unless there’s a good reason for such a long engagement, when a man decides he wants to marry you, he will. Re-think the relationship.
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