[April Masini, your AskApril]

Let me try to help you. If you get into a ring with an angry bull, and you’re wearing red, what do you think is going to happen? The answer is that the bull is going to attack you. And how do you know this? Because you’ve learned over the years that bulls attack people wearing red.

Now, if you continue to date this man, he will behave as he always has, because he’s shown you over and over again that he likes other women and that he’s abusive to you and manipulative. If you expect otherwise for him, you really must believe in the supernatural, miracles and a heavy dose of fairy tale living. In other words, if it walks like a duck and it quacks like a duck — don’t look for a dog because you’ve got a duck. And in your case you have a guy who is abusive and angry and manipulative and mean.

He isn’t going to change. So stop trying to make him! 😳

What can change is you because you’re the one who is so unhappy, I trust you want to feel good again, and in order to feel good, you have to change your behavior. I promise you that if you continue to do what you’re doing, you’ll just get more of the same. (I know you know this.)

You said I was going to tell you to walk away from this guy, and guess what? You’re right! I hate hearing you’re with someone who isn’t right for you and never will be. There is no working on this relationship. It’s a train wreck. Get out of the carnage before it becomes worse, and start looking for a man who is kind, and wants a monogamous, meaningful relationship — with you.

I hope that helps. Let me know how things go, and follow me @AskAprilcom on Twitter. You can also follow me on Facebook at this link: [url][/url]. 😀