Thank you for your response. I know yours is good advice and I am following it. I too am going out with other people. I know it doesn’t help that he is the first man I’ve spent a substantial amount of time with (even if it was online) and the first man I’ve really been attracted to (even if its just based upon images and not meeting in person) since getting divorced from a long term marriage. The last time I was single they didn’t even have the internet, so of course I’m not used to having in depth conversations with men I don’t even know. It all seems backwards to me. I’ve noticed that my dates I’ve met online have very quickly transitioned from e-mail to phone calls to dates (I’m talking 48 to 72 hours)- none of that long term pen pal business. That’s what makes me think I’ve been played. Of course, I know it shouldn’t matter whether I’ve been played or not and I don’t suppose it would had I not developed feelings for him. I just don’t understand talking/typing about how excited you are about seeing someone and the future one minute and disappearing the next! I’d really like to know whether it was something I did/or didn’t do versus getting played. I don’t want to be humiliated anymore than I have been and I’ve interpreted his line about “let’s chat soon so that we can find a time that does work” to just be a way to try and lessen the humiliation. Should I just assume I’ve been played and hope that over time the sting of it all will just fade away? I really can’t ask him “what happened”, can I?
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