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Re: what should i do

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I’m sorry you’re so hurt. A lot of this has to do with this being your first relationship. You’ve really put your whole heart into it, and now that it’s over, you’re having trouble accepting that the way he treats you isn’t the way someone who loves you will treat you, and that this is over even though you keep clinging to shreds to hold on to what is slipping away. 😥

Looking back, I think that the relationship was probably not as perfect as you say it was. Insisting that a boyfriend call you daily isn’t something you should do. 😕 Ideally, a guy will want to call you because he wants to call you, not because he’s obligated, and if he doesn’t, you’ll have an idea of how he feels about you — even if you don’t like it. When you insist that he call you daily, you lose the opportunity to see how he feels. I think that was probably something you will want to do differently next time around. 😉 Also, when you started dating in May, and then stopped dating throughout the summer because he lost interest, that was the first clue that things weren’t working out. The fights he says you started, the bad treatment you say he bestowed on you, the “breaks” that came during a 7 month relationship — these are all indications that this guy wasn’t “the one” and this relationship wasn’t meant to go the distance.

All that said — it was your first love, and that’s special and important, but from what you’re saying, it seems like it’s over. Now, you get to move on, figure out what you’ve learned, and get ready for your second love. 🙂

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