All,

Here is the deal… A woman online contacted me through a dating site and we began sending texts and phone calls. We had our first date and completely hit it off. After I kissed her goodbye, 3 times, she got in her car, drove away and began texting me. We had several dates after that that were incredible and were really into each other. She dropped a bomb on me that she has an ex that she loves and wants to be with. She had been with this guy for 6 years and he never committed to her. Now, she “sees the light” and knows she wants to be with him. Im not sure his take on it but I would suspect that he is stringing her along. She did tell me in an e-mail that her family thinks its a mistake and they really like me.

So, my question is this…. What is the best way to handle this without having my heart broken again? I really like this woman a lot but she committed to her ex and she wants to remain friends with me. I understand the issue and only plan on communicating with her if she contacts me. We have had several e-mails go back and fourth and she is well aware of my feelings for her. She is now repressing hers for me, because of her ex, and I have told her I will move on with great pain.

This is a tough spot because I feel like its a “loose, loose” situation for me. Id love to win her heart but she seems to be committed to her ex. Playing it cool is my plan but I would like some reassurance.

Thanks so much!!