My girlfriend has just informed me of a problem our relationship has that I did not know existed until now.
She enjoys drinking pretty often, and I really don’t like to drink much. That’s not the problem though. The problem is that she feels like I am judging her and she feels like she cannot enjoy herself while she is drinking because of her feeling like she is being judged.
Now I know within myself that I actually do not have a problem with her enjoying some drinks while we’re together, but I feel like maybe it’s just because I’m not drinking with her that she gets this vibe from me. Or, maybe it is something in my subconscience that is putting out this vibe – and if that’s the case then maybe it is something that I cannot even control.
I know that I am not making comments to her and I’m not trying to look at her differently or anything like that. So my questions are:
– Why is she picking up this vibe in me?
– How can I make it stop?
I want to do everything I can do to make her always feel comfortable around me, and I do not want to block her enjoyment while she enjoys some drinks while we are out together, but now she is saying that she wants to go out without me so that she can enjoy herself more. So somehow my being a buzzkill, without intending to be that way, has negatively impacted our relationship. HELP!
