You want one thing. She wants another. It doesn’t matter who’s right and who’s wrong here — the question is, can you find a compromise and/or flexibility so this doesn’t become a breaking point.
You’ve made yourself very clear — that you want a phone call before she goes out with her friends. She’s made it somewhat clear by her behavior, that she doesn’t want to do that. Since you’re the one who’s asking her to change her behavior, and she doesn’t want to, the question becomes, will you change yours? It’s a lot easier to change your own behavior than it is to change someone else’s.
My advice is that you let go of what is becoming your demand for her to check in with you so you can talk about your day with her. It’s a lot nicer to have her be happy and wanting to hear about your day than for you to hear her receiving your call as a burden. 😉
I have a feeling you’re not being completely honest here. It sounds like after two years of no real problems, you’re suddenly wanting her to check in because you’re feeling insecure in the relationship. Perhaps that’s the real problem here — and not the phone call issue.
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