About two years ago, I approached a guy that I thought was super attractive. We hit it off, exchanged numbers, and hung out my sophomore year of college. I ended up at his apartment one night, but got nervous and left before anything happened. He didn’t talk to me for about a year afterwards, and entered a few long-term relationship during that time and after.
When he became single again, he called me. We’ve been hanging out a few times a week since. We’re super close, often getting really close to something happening, but it never does. Everyone on the outside thinks we’re a couple, but we’re not. He gets so many girls! Everywhere we go, girls throw themselves at him.
With me, however, I try to purposely be hard to get; I never give in. He treats me differently than any other girls, so I feel like i’m above the friendzone. We have the playful middle school-esque thing going on in which we make fun of each other and are super flirty, even though we’re now 23 years old. He’s even brought me to have dinner with his parents.. But still not a move made by ether of us! He gets super jealous if I date other guys, often putting the other guys down. I know he’s just immature, but we get along really well and I’d like to give him a chance if possible.
I moved to California for a 3-month internship, and he remained single that entire time (very unusual for this guy!). According to mutual friends, he stayed in a lot and was rather miserable. I didn’t talk to him more than 3-4 times in 3 months, but he called twice the first day I was home, and we’re hung out 2/3 days since I’ve been back home.
Am I hopelessly in the friendzone, or just in a stalemate on who makes the first move?
