[Anonymous]

Hi there.
So, a few months back I ended a 4 and a half year relationship and just had gotten up the nerve to try online dating (my life style doesn’t introduce me to many eligible men). I met a really cute guy and he was very straightforward about being interested in meeting me. The first day we video chatted for over 3 hours. We had a great talk, some of it was a bit more on the sexual side, but pretty tame i.e. saying we found each other attractive.
The next day we went out for a drink and we ended up at my place. Needless to say, we did kiss a bit, but that’s it. We have texted a bit since, with both of us expressing we find each other interesting. The next night he texted at 11:30 and wanted to come over, but obviously I rejected that advance.
The next day I asked if he wanted to hang out that evening or the next and he said he has plans. Which, is fine, obviously. But, he doesn’t really seem as interested anymore.
I just don’t really understand as he has come on really strongly to almost be cut off within a day.
Is it better to now just let things go and if he texts or calls then reevaluate? Or should I be straightforward with him and say that I am interested in getting to know him more, and to let me know how he feels?
I would be ok with it either way, its just I am not used to this uncertainty part. I am used to boyfriends are pretty clear their level of interest.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated, and in some ways I know the answer, it’s just hard when you have a first crush in quite some time!

[April Masini, your AskApril]

This guy was only interested in sleeping with you, so when you told him not to come over at 11:30 at night, he realized you didn’t have mutual interests! 😮 Don’t call him or contact him. He knows how to reach you if he wants to date you.

The internet is a GREAT tool for finding men to date, but it’s just a tool. You still have to be the final arbiter of who you see, continue to see and get deeply involved with. I strongly suggest you get my book called Think & Date Like A Man, that you can download here: [url]https://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/think-and-date-like-a-man.html[/url] or else buy at Amazon.com or on the website for Barnes & Noble. It’s a GREAT read for you because you’re relatively new to dating. It’s easy to make mistakes when you haven’t dated in a while, and this book will save you time, money and most of all — heartache! Get it and read it. Then let me know how things go.

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