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Hi
okay… i need more help because. i was in relation with 2 months. she didn’t answer to my calls and Text one day! ( i am talking about that girls , who is 17 years old ).
i saw her mother and she was waiting for her daughter. then i sent a text ” are you in meet with another boy ?? your mother waiting for that ? ”

after that she doesn’t answer me never. and said you don’t trust me and i don’t be with you when you don’t have believe me.
she check my social network everyday. i like that girl a bit. because i am afraid to or love a girl ( for leave each other, and anything… ).

but i don’t have trust to her and feeling betrayed from that girl! April, what do you think? can i contact with her again? how can due about trust? specially she is teenager and they are not stable in decision.

[AskApril Masini]

I don’t think you should be dating a teenager for a slew of reasons — but you’ve already mentioned one of them. She’s a teenager. She’s capricious. She isn’t interested any more. If you date a teenager, you have to expect her to act like a teenager. 😉

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How can act like a teenager ?
can we have a long relationship? is not bad when she is 17 and i am 22 ?

[AskApril Masini]

You’ll find more compatibility with someone who’s over 21 and has a lifestyle more like yours.

[Ethan Morales]

You’re not the problem, but there is something to understand about your pattern. You say you leave girls quickly because you were “dependent.” That sounds like emotional dependency maybe you get attached fast, expect a lot, or feel pressure for things to stay exciting. When that fades or feels uncertain, you leave. That’s not bad it’s human but it means you might be chasing the feeling of connection, not building the deeper one that lasts.

April Masini gave smart advice: stop trying to “pick up” women like it’s a game. Focus on connecting with people. Flirting isn’t acting like a bad boy it’s just showing interest in a confident, relaxed way. You can be a gentleman and attractive. Respect and warmth never go out of style; they just work slower than arrogance but what you win lasts longer.

Here’s the truth about “bad boys”: women aren’t drawn to cruelty they’re drawn to confidence, mystery, and self-assurance. You can have all that without being rude. Work on being grounded, not needy; curious, not pushy; playful, not performative.

Try this shift: instead of thinking, “I want to pick up a beautiful girl,” think, “I want to meet someone who feels good around me.” When you radiate calm confidence, dress well, stay fit, and enjoy your own life women will notice you, even before you say anything.

And if you haven’t met someone for two months? That’s okay. Use this time to level up physically, emotionally, and socially. The better you feel about yourself, the less you’ll chase approval from others.

[Val Unfiltered💋]

babe… you don’t need to be a bad boy, you just need confidence. 😏 girls don’t fall for “mean,” they fall for energy. the reason bad boys win is because they act like they’re the prize and sure you can do that without being a jerk. keep your manners, just add a little mystery. 😉🔥

[PassionSeeker]

You love deeply too deeply, too fast and then you get hurt because you give your heart before you know if it’s safe. You’re not wrong for feeling that way, you just need better timing.
Don’t rush to belong to someone. Let her earn your attention first. Fall in love slowly not because you’re cold, but because you’re protecting your peace.

[Marcus king]

You don’t need to act like a bad boy to attract women, you just need to stop acting like you’re trying to *please* them. Confidence isn’t about being rude, it’s about being comfortable in your own skin.

When you respect yourself first, people notice. You can still be kind and carry edge, it’s all in how you hold yourself, how you look at her, how you speak with purpose instead of seeking approval. Work on your presence, dress sharp, keep your posture strong, talk less, listen more. That quiet confidence does more for you than pretending to be someone you’re not.

[Tara]

YES, YOU ARE THE PROBLEM, but not for the reason you think.
You’ve confused niceness with value. You think being “positive” and “respectful” should automatically earn attraction. It doesn’t. Respect is basic human decency, not a selling point. Attraction isn’t charity it’s instinct.

Here’s your real issue: you’re chasing women for validation, not connection. You said you “leave them quickly because you were dependent.” That’s code for needy. You want attention more than you want a person. Women sense that immediately it’s not “gentlemanly,” it’s insecure.
And this nonsense about “girls like bad boys”? No they like men with backbone. Confidence, direction, self-control not aggression. A “bad boy” just projects power; you, on the other hand, are apologizing for wanting something. That’s weak energy, not kindness.

You don’t need to become someone else. You need to stop seeking approval. Build your purpose, stay grounded, flirt without attachment. You’ll stop repelling women when you stop performing for them.

[Sally]

You just keep trying to be what you think women want instead of being who you actually are. And honestly, that gets exhausting fast.

This whole “girls only like bad boys” thing… that’s not real. Some women go for chaos, sure, but plenty want a guy who’s kind and steady. The trick is you can’t chase them from a place that feels needy or desperate. That’s the part that pushes people away, not your personality.

Slow down a little. Get comfortable in your own skin again. When you’re not trying so hard, you show up more real and that’s what actually pulls the right girls in.

[Natalie Noah]

Hey sweetheart… come sit with me for a moment. You’ve been carrying so much emotion, hurt, confusion, and longing in this story and it shows how deeply you feel and how much you want real love. You’re not weak for that. You’re not “too emotional.” You’re human, and you want connection that feels honest, safe, and mutual. Everything you described the jealousy, the insecurity, the confusion about her behavior, the frustration with mixed signals those are normal reactions when someone is inconsistent, dishonest, or unavailable. This girl wasn’t transparent with you, she kept secrets, she told lies, she had other relationships happening in the background… none of that is your fault. You walked into this with good intentions, wanting something real, and she walked in with half-truths. Anyone in your situation would feel hurt and confused.

But here’s the deeper truth, sweetheart: you keep giving your heart to girls who are not emotionally ready, not faithful, or not serious and then you blame yourself. You think you need to be more “bad boy,” or more fit, or less emotional, but none of that would fix this. You don’t have a problem picking up girls you have a problem picking girls who are right for you. You want loyalty, honesty, and long-term love, but you’re choosing girls who enjoy attention from many men, who hide things, who aren’t stable, and who don’t communicate. That creates a cycle where you get attached fast, they treat you carelessly, and you end up hurt. You don’t need to change your personality, you need to change the type of girl you choose. A real relationship comes from emotional maturity, not makeup, fake confidence, or popularity. When you stop chasing pretty chaos and start choosing women who value commitment and honesty, you’ll finally get the love you want. You deserve someone who chooses you fully not someone who disappears into someone else’s car.

[KeishaMartin]

This guy isn’t losing women because he’s “too nice”, he’s losing them because he’s emotionally sprinting while they’re still tying their shoes. Desire needs oxygen, mystery, and a little chase. What he’s doing is pouring his entire heart into someone who hasn’t even decided if she likes his coffee order yet. That jealousy, the mental spirals, the guilt-texts? That’s not passion, that’s insecurity trying to wear lingerie. Women don’t fall for neediness wrapped in politeness; they fall for grounded confidence that says, “I enjoy you, but I don’t collapse without you.” Being a gentleman is hot. Being desperate is not. And no, “bad boys” aren’t magic men who know when to lean in and when to lean back.

April Masini cuts through the fantasy and hands him reality without cruelty. That takes skill, experience, and serious emotional authority. She reminds him and anyone reading that rejection isn’t humiliation, it’s direction. Her advice is seductive because it’s honest: slow down, date smarter, stop worshipping attention, and let attraction build instead of begging it to stay. That kind of wisdom saves years of heartbreak and turns boys into men women actually want to choose.

Happy New Year, 2026, may the parties be loud, the lights low, and confidence walk into the room before you say a word.
Happy New Year, 2026, here’s to flirtation with fire, champagne courage, and finally learning how to want without chasing.

Happy New Year, 2026.

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