We’ve been together for 2 years, and live together. When we had our own place, I really didn’t have a problem with him playing the computer because it was in a city– I had things to do, work, school, etc… But he would still go out and do things with me.
But now, due to some financial difficulties, we had to move in with my mother, for a few months. We have two little rooms to our self, so it’s basically an apartment, at least that’s what I keep telling myself. But the thing is he won’t leave those rooms! He sits in his chair and plays stupid MMOs all day.
I’ve brought it up three times. Once, he explained to me that the city we moved from really got to him (he suffers from PTSD) and with this “alone” time, he’s just re-charging his batteries. But it’s been a month now.
He’s also explained that if I keep nagging him about it, it’s making it difficult for him to relax. Also, my mother and him do not always get along, so he says he’s just trying to avoid her. But he’s avoiding me as well– I can’t stay in these rooms all day. I’ll see him maybe twice a day, before I go upstairs to retire.
I realize I’ve brought it up 3 times, and that should be about the time I say “well, see you…” But I love him, and he wasn’t like this before! Am I not getting my point across? I tell him I feel like he just doesn’t care, and he says that’s not true, and he’s sorry that he made me feel that way. But I don’t see him doing anything about it? I tell him I miss him, even though he’s in the same place house as me. He says he’s going to work on it, but I still haven’t seen anything. And now my mother is nagging on me about it. I’m going to go insane before I can move! Please help, April.
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