Your desire to have a child is understandable. Some women really want children, and others not so much. But having a child is a big responsibility, and choosing the circumstances under which to have your child is crucial. It doesn’t sound like you’re really that into this guy — especially when you write that after being with him for 2 years now “I don’t know if I really like this guy”. 😕 It just seems like he’s here, he’s breathing, he’s a good father to his own kids, and he’s got viable sperm. This is [i]not[/i] a good scenario to make a baby.
Remember that any potential baby you make with this man will have his genes, and if you don’t like the father, there’s a good chance you’re going to find all those same qualities you don’t like in him, in your baby! Besides which, a baby deserves a better chance in life than your mating with some guy you don’t like that much just to satisfy your own desire to have a child — when you already have one.
In addition to which you have fertility challenges, and your boyfriend’s mother is possibly going to be a big problem in your relationship with your boyfriend if you do marry and have a child together.
My advice is to focus on what you do have — a healthy child who is 6 years old. Be the mother to your child and be the best mother you can. And that, my dear, means being good to yourself. Don’t settle for two years on some guy you don’t like very much. It’s better to be on your own building towards something fantastic than settling at age 36 for someone who’s just okay.
In the meantime, to curb your baby fever, start volunteering with kids — there are so many opportunities to help children who don’t have any parents or have been abused or abandoned or are really sick or disdvantaged. This is a great season to start putting yourself in the light you deserve to stand in and helping others less fortunate than yourself.
I hope that that helps! 🙂
