[chinchilla]

Hi everyone,
im super confused right now. ive been in a relationship for 7 years and i have a baby with my fiance, we have fallen on hard times that led us to move in with my soon to be inlaws. life at the inlaws is horrible. but we have no choice right now. we r both working towards saving money to move out but there has been a constant struggle with our relationship from the start. lately it seems he is more emotionally disconnected with me more irratable and like he doesnt take me serious. i am starting to feel emotionally neglected and alone. he spends more time on the computer than talking to me. everytime i try to talk or communicate it feels like he always wants to fight. this has been an ongoing rollocoaster and i feel trapped and confused. no matter how much i try to talk about it its like it goes in one ear and out the other. i am suffering from great anxiety and stress. it feels like it gets worst everyday. i feel like he has become part of the problem instead of being my partner. i dont know what to do. i feel like i have maxed out my talking strategies. part of me wants to leave but i worry about breaking up our family. the other part just thinks it will pass but the problem is it passes but it always returns. please help.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

You’re under a tremendous amount of stress. It sounds like you want to dump emotionally on him, and he doesn’t have the resources for your anxiety and stress right now. I think it’s temporary. My advice is to find a supplemental support system for your emotional needs right now. This could be your girlfriends, family members, teachers, clergy — you get the picture. You have to look outside of him and his parents for your talk support. When you’re supported, you’re going to feel more giving and emotionally generous towards him, and right now, that’s what he needs.

I hope that helps. Let me know how things go, and please follow me @AskAprilcom on Twitter and on Facebook at this link: [url][/url].

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