[LBrown927]

I mett my now boyfriend december of last year and we gradually became “friends with benefits” we are 9 yers apart in age he has three kids two from which are his and 1 from his ex wifes previous relationship that he claims as his, and I have 2 children from a past relationship and in February found out that I was pregnant again and there is a possibility that he may or may not be the father (which I did tell him). We continued to associate and started to really care for each other it wasnt much of a wining and dining thing but more of two friends casually socializing and hanging out and of course being intimate with each other. In July he asked me to be his girlfriend and I said yes, maybe its me expecting too much but it seems like the relationship/friendship went from good to horrible he started asking me if i was going to marry him which I responded no to, twice, and he also asked me to go to Germany with him in about a year since he’s in the military and that’s where he’ll be stationed, which I also said no to because all of my family is here and I am still working on establishing a career and don’t want to have to depend on him for everything. But lately it seems as though everything is ceasing on his end and my feelings for him are still strong it seems like if i dont text or call him it wouldnt bother him at all we have gone two full days without speaking and at least 10 days without seeing each other and whenever i call he’s busy at the moment and says he’ll call back and never does or if i text him he’ll either make a joke or reply with a short statement its been at least 2 weeks since we actually held a conversation and we have only officially been together 2 months sometimes I second guess myself and think its either the hormones due th=o the pregnancy or maybe I’m expecting too much from him, when all i really want is to feel loved in return for him to show some affection or pay attention to me. What should i do everytime I think about backing out my heart aches but I dont want to feel so trapped inside of myself!

[April Masini, your AskApril]

This isn’t very complicated the way you’ve told it. It’s pretty simple. But it’s not what you want, and that’s why you’re calling it complicated. You want one thing, but you’re not getting it, and you’re trying to figure out how to get it. It’s not complicated — but it is disappointing. 😉

The bottom line is that you rejected his marriage proposal and you’re having a baby which you’ve told him may or may not be his. 😕 Try and look at this from his point of view. He doesn’t feel you’re very interested in him, if you’ve been sleeping around while you’re dating him and aren’t sure the baby is his — and you’ve turned down his proposal of marriage several times now.

Of course he’s going to move on. I know you say you want to feel loved and the object of affection, but you’ve shunned him and his love — if you want love and affection, you have to make yourself worthy of it. Rejecting a guy isn’t going to get you love in return. 😳

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