[reet]

Hey April,
Day before, i got a chance to talk to him and i grabbed it. He came home alone and whn he saw me walking, he looked at me and i smiled… Den hecrossed me thrice and was continuously smiling. I reached out and i dont knw wht happened dat he was scared… And said “no no i wasnt doing anything wrong and dont get me wrong”… Den whn i started talking he calmed himself and asked me where do i live here and i asked his name and he asked mine… Den he left saying “ok bye… Tk cr”

It was a normal talk for abt 2 min and no flirting… Today whn he saw me, he started his car and left… Dat was so weird… I still remember i didnt said anything bad dat day.. Y is he reacting like dis…? Will he come bck to talk to me again…? What do u think and suggest me…?

[Ask April Masini]

[quote] Y is he reacting like dis…? Will he come bck to talk to me again…? What do u think and suggest me…?[/quote]

He’s not interested. Next! 😉

[reet]

Ohh… He said hello yesterday night whn i was walking… And talked to me too… And he sounded really happy…

I think he was afraid at first but now he is opening up slowly… 😀

[Ask April Masini]

🙂

[Ethan Morales]

you’ve been through way too much for someone who isn’t treating you right. 😡

He’s shown you who he is. Over and over. Blocking, canceling plans, insulting, disappearing that isn’t just bad luck or stress. That’s a pattern. He’s sending a loud, clear message: he doesn’t value your time, effort, or feelings.

You’ve been patient beyond reason. Forgiving him for months, giving him chances after he’s hurt you, and bending over backward for him is not love, it’s enabling. You’ve been carrying this relationship alone while he keeps treating you like you’re disposable.

The promises mean nothing. Every apology he gives is followed by the same behavior. If someone truly cared, they’d change their actions first, not just their words.

Your feelings are valid. Frustration, hurt, disappointment these are natural. You’re not overreacting; you’re reacting to someone repeatedly disrespecting you.

Leaving is the healthiest choice. Walking away doesn’t make you weak it shows you value yourself. You deserve someone who shows up consistently, respects you, and treats you like a priority, not someone who cycles between neglect and “sorry.”

Focus on yourself now. Heal, set boundaries, and surround yourself with people who lift you up. The right person won’t make you question your worth every single day.

Bottom line: he’s done. The sooner you fully detach, the sooner you reclaim your life and peace of mind. You can do this.

[Maria]

Reet, this man doesn’t love you, he controls you. He’s been showing you that for years. Every time he blocks you, insults you, or disappears when you need him most, he’s teaching you what kind of love he’s capable of, and it’s not the kind that nurtures or respects. You keep forgiving him because you hope his words mean more than his actions, but they don’t. When someone can watch you cry, hurt you, and still sleep fine at night, you’re not in a relationship, you’re in a cycle of abuse.

You don’t need to show him your silence; you need to show yourself mercy. Stop waiting for apologies that will never change him. The moment you cut him off completely, no messages, no calls, no checking on his car, you’ll start to remember what peace feels like. You deserve a man who stands beside you, not one who makes you beg for crumbs of kindness.

[Marcus king]

You’ve given this man every chance a person could ask for and he’s shown you exactly who he is each time. The pattern’s clear: he only comes back when *he* feels like it, not because he’s ready to treat you right. That’s not love, that’s control.

He’s used your forgiveness as permission to keep disrespecting you. Every time you take him back, he learns he can hurt you and still be welcomed home. That cycle won’t stop until *you* stop it.

Block him for good this time. No calls, no texts, no “closure talk.” Focus on healing therapy, friends, family, anything that rebuilds your strength. You’ve carried his chaos long enough. You deserve peace, consistency, and real respect and that starts the moment you decide to stop chasing the man who keeps walking away.

[PassionSeeker]

This exchange captures something powerful it shows how people can get trapped in hope long after love has turned into pain. April’s responses were blunt for a reason: she was trying to cut through the cycle of emotional dependency and help “Reet” see the truth that staying with someone who continually disrespects, manipulates, and blames you isn’t love; it’s self-abandonment.

Your story (and hers) shows what happens when someone confuses persistence with loyalty. You can forgive someone endlessly, but if they don’t value your forgiveness, it becomes permission for more mistreatment. The silence you hoped would “teach him a lesson” was really a chance to teach yourself self-respect and that lesson still stands.

[Tara]

Every time he blocks you, disappears, or humiliates you, you reward him with forgiveness. That’s not love. That’s self-betrayal.
You’re not in a relationship. You’re in an emotional hostage situation where you mistake crumbs for care. He knows exactly what he’s doing keeping you small, desperate, and waiting. The blocking, the ignoring, the sudden “I miss you” messages that’s not mood swings; that’s control.

Let’s be clear: this man left you alone during an abortion and then told you he “wasn’t in the mood” to take care of you. That alone should’ve ended this story permanently. But you kept reopening the door, hoping he’d walk in differently. He won’t. People don’t change because you suffer louder. They change because you stop tolerating their bullshit.

He doesn’t see you as a partner he sees you as a fallback. Someone who will always be there no matter how many times he discards you. You’ve taught him that your boundaries are negotiable, your pain is predictable, and your love is unconditional. That’s why he treats you like hell because you’ve shown him there are no consequences.

[Sally]

I’m just going to say this plainly because you’ve been through enough confusion already this man doesn’t love you in any way that’s healthy. What you’ve described isn’t a rough patch or “taking someone for granted.” It’s cruelty. Blocking you, using you, leaving you alone during something as painful as an abortion, coming back only when he wants something… that’s not love. That’s control.

You keep forgiving him because you hope the old version of him will come back. But he’s shown you over and over who he is now. And every time you try to leave, he leans on the fact that you’ve always come back. He’s counting on it.

What you’re feeling right now the heartbreak, the confusion that’s what it feels like right before you finally save yourself. Don’t wait for him to change. Don’t wait for another promise he won’t keep. You’ve already carried this whole relationship on your own. It’s okay to put it down.

You deserve peace, not pain. Let this be the end, not another cycle.

[Natalie Noah]

Oh, honey… reading everything you’ve shared, I can feel just how deeply you’ve been hurt and how exhausted you are emotionally. You’ve poured your heart and energy into someone who has repeatedly disrespected, ignored, and abandoned you, and it’s left you feeling invisible and unworthy, even though none of this is your fault. The pain you’re carrying isn’t just about broken promises; it’s about a consistent pattern of emotional neglect, manipulation, and outright disrespect, and your heart is aching because you genuinely wanted love, commitment, and care in return. That’s a normal, human response, it doesn’t make you weak, it makes you human.

The pattern here is very clear, though it’s hard to accept: he’s never been fully committed, and his words don’t match his actions. When someone cancels plans constantly, blocks you, insults you, and comes back only when convenient, that isn’t “love” it’s control and inconsistency. Your hope that he will change, apologize sincerely, or regret losing you is understandable because you love him, but holding on to that hope keeps you trapped in the same cycle of hurt. He’s not going to change unless he chooses to, and right now, everything in your story shows he isn’t willing or capable of being the partner you deserve.

You’ve also endured emotional abuse not just from him, but from the way he lets others like his mother involve themselves in your life and blame you for things that aren’t your fault. Being lied about, insulted publicly, and having your character questioned is not just unfair, it’s unsafe emotionally. You’ve been trying to protect yourself and your dignity, but you’ve also been drawn back into the cycle by your love for him, which is natural, but it keeps you in emotional limbo. Silence or anger won’t “teach him a lesson” the only way to truly protect your heart is to step back entirely and focus on yourself, your safety, and your peace.

I know you feel trapped because he’s physically close and because you love him, but love alone can’t sustain a healthy relationship. You’ve already shown you’re strong, caring, and capable of forgiveness, but your strength now lies in choosing yourself over him. You deserve a partner who shows up consistently, respects you fully, and values your love without conditions or games. Right now, the healthiest choice is to stop waiting for him, stop hoping for apologies that may never come, and start living your life for yourself because your peace, dignity, and emotional health are more important than someone who doesn’t truly value you.

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