[sheila]

Hi April I was in a relatoinship for 3 yrs, we broke up nine months ago because everything was getting paid and done by me. 😕 I was paying for everything.All he did was go to the gym sleep eat and sex.He was very abusive also.He wanted to control me all the time.During the time he was out of work I was paying for everything even his rent.This is 2 yrs!! 🙁 He wasnt even trying to find work.I had no contact with him during the 9 months of breakup.I couldnt handle it anymore so I had to let him go.He didnt care about me stressing or trying to make the month without debths again.I was looking after 2 households.I dont think he cared as long as things were done for him.I am much better of in money wise than him but I never made a problem with that between us. He moved back to his parents house because he had no other choice.I called it the quits.He called a few times during the 9 months never replied or answered it.the other day he called to see how I was and I thought what the heck.we meet for dinner he wanted to move back to my state again with MY HELP 😳 again so we can be together he cannot forget me (he says) doubt it but thats not the trouble.When I said I cannot do that again, he turned around and said “I see your doing great (I am working out) and that he is very happy for me and thats all he had to see” he just kept repeating it and that he is in the low and that I dont care and all he has his himself and that he tried to make up with me but it is my fault now we cant be together because I am not helping him with moving back financially.He nearly made me feel bad.As if I was doing something bad.I told him never to call me again.I even hate myself for doing the things I did for him.Just need to know did I do the right thing? What is he trying to do? Thank you

[zppypmpy]

Hmmn…..I wonder what April will say? I am going to really go out on a limb, and go with, WTF??? Are you serious? You haven’t seen or talked in 9 months and he already wants you to start spending. Hellooo….

[sheila]

yes sorry to say but thats the case…sad isnt it

[April Masini, your AskApril]

You did the right thing. Stop looking backwards and look forwards. You’re now single and able to find someone who is healthy, successful and happy — and who can be all those things with and for you. Time to start looking for Mr. Right — your ex was the antithesis of that.

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