[Drea1207]

Hi April
I met my now ex online. We starting chattin and realized he is my cousins ex. While I was with his cousin we did meet once or twice. We did not remember eachother when we originally met online!

I told him I could t date him because his cousin is my ex. He convinced me that we weren’t intentionally doing anything wrong and we met by coincidence .

He promised he would tell him after awhile . Of
Course we both needed to see if this relationship was gonna work out. Well it did. Or atleast so I thought . We were together for over a year. He even gave me a promise ring. We were exclusive and happy. And throughout our relationship he never told his cousin.
His cousin found out as a mutual friend saw me and him out together . Of
Course he was mad and got the whole family
Involved. My bfs sister was so pissed that she told him he needed to dump me or she wouldn’t speak to him again. He immediately called me , broke up with me, and hasn’t spoken or contacted me since.

I am so sad. And so hurt especially by how he left me. No face to face. No goodbye . How can I mend my broken heart?
Sincerely, Andrea

[April Masini, your AskApril]

So you’re 34 and your ex-boyfriend is 36 and you want to know how to get over a break up after dating for about a year. I’m sorry that things didn’t work out, and breakups are painful. 🙁 The best way to move on is to first, try and process the breakup. This is a guy who didn’t even break up with you face to face. This is disrespectful and not very mature. Given that, there would probably have been other situations down the line, had you stayed together, where he’d have been disrespectful and immature as well. You may have broken up over something else if it wasn’t about this issue with his cousin, given his character. A lack of respect and immaturity are two tough obstacles in any relationship, so think about how this probably wouldn’t have gone the long run, given what you’re now figuring out about him.

Next, you have to balance processing the breakup with moving on. Take care of yourself and see friends and family members who are supportive. Go to the gym, start new hobbies and projects and throw parties. Really put the spotlight on yourself so you don’t wallow in sadness. These steps will help you get past the pain of a breakup.

I hope that helps!

[Rayan lee]

This guy didn’t leave you because he loved his family so much, but rather because he was a coward. Men who end a relationship after a year of being together with one phone call could never be with you.
Here AskApril gave some expert advice: instead of crying, you should focus all your attention on yourself. Go to the gym, meet up with friends, start some new hobbies, and keep yourself busy so you can move past the pain.

[Ryan Carter]

Andrea!
First of all you need to understand that feeling hurt is normal. No matter what’s the reason of breakup but it’s painful. Because we can’t control emotions whether it is good or not. Give yourself time, talk to close friends or family, and let yourself process what happened.

Remember, how the relationship ended does not define your value. Keep yourself busy with work, hobbies, and self care. Over time, the pain will lessen, and you’ll be ready for healthy relationships again.

Some people also find it helpful to talk to a professional if the emotional pain feels too heavy.

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