[tara292]

I am dating and falling in love with a guy that I see as a serious ideal future partner, however some differences make me wonder if just love will be enough to make it last. He’s very principled and quite religious (not rigidly but takes his beliefs very seriously), our interests and view of the world are quite different though. I respect that and feel he respects the way I am too, I feel we’d have a greater connection if we were a little bit more alike and wonder if this will be our undoing one day. If our love changes, apart from maybe our kids we wouldn’t have much of a connection anymore to try to save what we have. Can love be enough in the long run when you don’t have much more in common?

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Love is not enough to make a relationship last. You have to have respect and compatibility and shared goals. You also have to know yourself and what YOU want in a man and in a relationship — and hope that he does the same.

If he has strong religious beliefs and principles, that can work if there is room in his life for yours, too. You should definitely talk about how you would raise children if your beliefs are different.

I hope that helps. Let me know how things go, and please follow me @AskAprilcom on Twitter and on Facebook at this link: [url][/url]. 😀

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