[Tara]

You made a choice — and now you’re shocked she doesn’t want to rebuild a relationship you already set on fire. You cheated, you confessed, she reacted like any sane person with self-respect, and now you’re acting like her heartbreak is an obstacle to your romantic comeback. It’s not. It’s the consequence.

You keep describing how miserable you are, how much you hurt, how scared you are to make a move but none of that changes the fact that you broke her trust in a relationship that was barely out of the wrapper. She doesn’t owe you softness, friendship, closure, or a second chance.

She owes you nothing. The reason she looks mad and miserable at school is simple: you put her through hell, and she’s still trying to get away from the wreckage.

And stop romanticizing the whole “I knew her better than anyone” fantasy. You knew her long enough to betray her, and she knew you long enough to see that you weren’t who you sold yourself as. Flowers on Valentine’s Day didn’t impress her. They annoyed her. She doesn’t want grand gestures; she wants distance.

[Natalie Noah]

This boy is drowning in guilt, and that guilt is making him cling instead of think. He cheated because he was stressed, overwhelmed, and sitting in an emotionally dangerous situation not because he didn’t care. But here’s the truth: even if the cheating didn’t go “all the way,” the emotional betrayal still hit his girlfriend like a knife. For her, it wasn’t about what almost happened it was about why it happened at all. Cristian is desperate because he hates himself, but desperation doesn’t rebuild trust. It just scares the other person and pushes them farther away.

Her reaction makes perfect sense. She forgave him at first, then got angry, then pulled back, then softened, then got cold again. That’s exactly what a wounded heart does it swings between “I miss you” and “How dare you?” because betrayal creates emotional whiplash. She isn’t being stubborn for no reason. She’s trying to protect herself from being hurt again, especially when friends are in her ear, and she’s young enough that outside opinions shape her decisions heavily.

Cristian keeps trying to “win her back,” but he hasn’t actually given her the one thing she needs: space. He keeps calling, trying to talk in person, sending gifts, asking questions, pushing for friendship… but that doesn’t heal anything. That just shows her he’s still the same guy trying to force a solution instead of respecting her boundaries. When someone loses trust, you can’t talk your way back in you have to live your way back into their respect. Quietly. Patiently. Not for a week or a month, but consistently, long enough that she can actually believe the change.

the best path now isn’t chasing her it’s stepping back with dignity. She knows he cares. She knows he regrets it. She heard the apology. She saw the effort. Now the next move is hers not his. If he keeps pushing, he’ll suffocate her. But if he gives her space, focuses on becoming a stable, responsible man instead of a panicked boy, she might might look back one day and see a different version of him. If she doesn’t, then the lesson was still worth learning: love grows from trust, and trust grows from character. And he has to rebuild his, with or without her.

[Sally]

You’re talking like there’s some magic sentence that’ll pull her back, but the truth is way simpler and a lot harder: she’s not coming back because she doesn’t feel safe with you anymore. And once someone loses that sense of safety, especially that early in a relationship, it’s almost impossible to rebuild.

You didn’t just cheat you did it in a moment where you were upset, confused, and looking for comfort in a place that wasn’t yours. And even though you told her the truth (which was the right thing), the damage was done. She’s not punishing you. She’s protecting herself.

The reason she looked hurt when you saw her at school? That’s grief. Not a “maybe I still want you.” Just the human sadness of realizing someone you cared about broke something you can’t un-break.

I know you love her. I know you regret it. But love and regret don’t rewind anything. Sometimes the only thing left to do is accept the loss and grow from it, so you never put yourself or someone else in that kind of pain again.

Let her go. Not because you don’t care, but because holding on is keeping you stuck in a moment that already ended.

[Member]

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