[WalterUnplugged]

I’m Walter and I’ll make this short.

Met a girl years ago. We were a perfect match. Didn’t last long because she took a job in another state. We stayed in touch on and off. The spark never left, even when we were dating other people. She was pretty much the “one that got away”. Everyone has one, I think.

She came back to town a couple years ago to visit her folks. She was newly engaged to a real jerk. He was emotionally abusive and manipulative. I tried to be a friend but we kept getting closer. Daily emails, texts, occasional phone sex. Despite the fact that it was obvious I was setting myself up for failure, it felt right for the first time in a long time.

Well, one day she got cold feet and left. And then came back. And then left. And then came back and finally left. She said in no uncertain terms that she wanted no contact with me ever again, that any emails or contact would be collected and brought to the police, etc.

I didn’t have a single iota of contact with her after that. I may be a dumb guy but some stoves are too hot to touch.

It’s been a year. I’ve wondered about her. Last Saturday night I get an email from her saying nothing more than “I’m still in love with you”.

Now, my question isn’t if I should try and talk to her. I’m not sure if I want her back in my life after all this run-around. My questions IS this – she threatened to call the cops on me back then, so does her reaching out on her own now negate that? Basically, I’m trying to figure out if I even have an OPTION to reply to her. I take that sort of stuff with great seriousness.

So please put aside the platitudes of “Why would you want to get back together with her” because I honestly am not sure I want to yet. I just want to know if I could be, I dunno, arrested for just replying at all? I hope this makes sense.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

I’m a relationship expert and you’re asking me a legal question that really should go to an attorney. However, not being an attorney, I can tell you that from what you’ve written here, it doesn’t sound like you’ve done anything wrong, so even if she does go to the police, I’m not sure what it is she wants them to do to you….. if you’re not threatening her, and you’re not stalking her or making her feel unsafe, it would seem (and again, I’m not an attorney), that her going to the police is a hollow threat.

However, my guess is that if you did see an attorney and asked them this question, they’d say you need a relationship expert to figure out why you need an attorney just to respond to a woman you want to date. 😉

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[WalterUnplugged]

Ha! That’s pretty much the logic I had in my head already, I think I just needed it to be confirmed through someone else. Cheers! 😀

[April Masini, your AskApril]

You’re welcome, and good luck! 😀

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