I have been seeing a gentleman for a while now. I am not a serial dater and told him so after he told me that he was not. We went out on several dates and each time he would bring me a small gift. I think we get along well. We met online via a dating site and have been seeing one another for a little over a month. Recently I had a family function to attend and told him when he was setting up the next date (he always set a following date while on a date). I did not invite him, but he asked if he could go. I stated that would be fine with me. He went and we had a lovely time. He appeared to get along well in the situation and at the end of the evening asked me out again as usual. This date though was a bit different. He invited me to his house for dinner. I felt comfortable and the date was amazing. He cooked a fabulous meal, candlelight, music – truly romantic – we moved the relationship to the next level. Neither of us has been seeing others (to my knowledge on his part and nothing to insinuate anything that he is). The problem is that when I got home and was closing my online account, I noticed he was online. I didn’t close my account, but my profile had been hidden for 2 weeks. The next night was a repeat of the night before and yet again, when I went online to the dating site, I noticed he was online and I then made my profile visible. It was at that time that his profile went off – not to be found. We have seen one another 3 more times since this incident and I did close my online dating profile account.
My dilemma is this: my lunch date with him yesterday went fabulous, but he said he was sick and apologised to me if I got sick in advance. I left after lunch and went about my normal routine of things. I didn’t hear from him last night, but did send a text stating that I hoped the hot bath helped and he was feeling better. His response was “nope”. I heard nothing more from him and I didn’t text anything past that. This morning I sent a quick text stating that I hoped he felt better. He texted back “where are you?” and I noted to him that I was at home. He asked “when are you going to NB?” and I texted back that I wasn’t leaving until tomorrow due to sorting some personal personal things – shopping, etc. His response, hope everything is okay. And that is all I have had from him.
I can understand him being sick, as I would not want to be around anyone if I was, but my issue is that when we are together it appears / feels normal, good, etc. But now the lack of communication when we are not together and no date set is odd considering the past 6 weeks. My thoughts are he is sick and is recuperating. After todays text I feel it best to let him make the move. I have let him know I was concerned and wished he would feel better soon. At the same time, I don’t want him to think that I don’t care.
Am I on the right track? BTW, we are both 46.
Cheers and hope you have a fabulous holiday.
