Swinging and threesomes never end well. 😥 I have people write in on this forum, almost regularly, with stories like yours, and whenever a third person is introduced into the relationship, it eventually falls apart. 😳 It sounds like after eleven years, your ex-girlfriend is not interested in continuing your romance together, and only wants to be friends. I don’t think it’s a good idea to continue living with her, even though you want her back. Living with her as friends, with swinging and possible cheating in your background, isn’t a scenario for making up.
I know you’re confused and you feel broken, but here’s the way to get out of your confusion: Any time you’ve got swinging or other people involved in your romantic or sexual relationship with your woman, there’s going to be a break up. It’s a good rule to follow to avoid further confusion.
I know you’re upset, but if you make a clean break you’ll have clarity and a chance to heal yourself and process what happened without the confusion of your ex-girlfriend hanging around your house as a friend with whom you want so much more.
I’m sorry you’re sad. I hope this helps.
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