[raidersfan16]

Hey everyone. I have been dating this one really nice and sweet girl for about 4 months now. I am 17 and she is 16. For the most part everything has been going well its just we seem to have trouble connecting and feeling like “ourselves”. She never said to me that she dosent feel herself around me but i can tell thats its not her real self when she is with me. I think the inability for her to act herself reflects upon me and i end up being tense and cant relax. Our conversations dont flow, and still have plenty of akward moments that i dont feel should happen. She never tells me her true feelings about her friends’ family, school, and stuff like that.I really do like her alot and dont want to break up her. She is so nice to me, i just wish that we could have a connection and i could make her feel comfortable and hope that it results in her not acting like a stranger. Any help would be so much appreciated!

[April Masini, your AskApril]

You’re both new to dating, and she sounds like she’s a little more nervous about it (which is often normal), so the best thing you can do is to continue to spend time together so that being together isn’t a nerve wracking experience like a first date can be. If you do things that can break the ice (like bowling or watching a funny movie), you don’t have to feel like the conversation is about “getting to know each other” but instead, is just about the game or the movie or having fun.

Give it some time, and take the pressure off of your expectations, and I think you’ll feel more connected to her that way! 😉

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