5 years ago I dated someone that I had been friends with for a couple of years before hand. He had always had a bit of a crush on me, but had a girlfriend. When they broke up, we started spending more time together, and soon started dating. He was a wonderful man. We had much in common, very similar values and upbringings, and were very happy. I was always completely myself around him, and never felt I had to be anything but me.
A few months later, as things were getting serious, his ex came back into the picture. He decided to take her back. He apologized, but said he loved her and wanted to give it one more chance.
I was hurt, but eventually understood I couldn’t spend my life hating him for choosing love over something uncertain.
They did not last.
Now, for about the last 6 months, I can’t seem to stop thinking about him. We just had something, and I’ve always felt like it could have been something really special if the timing were right.
I still keep in touch with a couple of his good friends, so it wouldn’t be difficult to contact him. My question is; do I go with my instinct, and see if the time is right for us to try again, or do I let the past be the past? That feeling of “what if” is driving me mad!
I just don’t want to seem desperate or anything, but I have this feeling I might miss out on something if I ignore it.
