[Natalie Noah]

This man didn’t take you on a date. he dragged you through his evening. There’s a huge difference. You showed up with intention, effort, and openness. He showed up like he was killing time before something better came along. That mismatch alone tells you everything. Let me tell you what really happened here, in simple, honest truth:

He didn’t value the date or you. That wasn’t nervousness. That was entitlement. No compliment, dressed sloppy, taking the remote out of your hand… that’s someone who’s used to putting himself first and expects you to orbit around him.

He showed you his priorities. He didn’t want a movie because he didn’t want to see anything. He didn’t want bowling because he couldn’t win. He made zero effort to create a shared experience. A man who likes you wants to see you smile not see himself win.

You were the only one dating that night. You were trying to make the night fun. He was trying to make the night convenient. That’s not partnership. That’s you performing and he is spectating.

You didn’t “mess up” he revealed himself early. And honestly? Thank God he did. Because you could’ve wasted months thinking he might be thoughtful, romantic, or generous… but he showed you on night one that he’s none of those things. What I think as gently as I can say it:

He’s not your guy. You’re too emotionally aware, too kind, too open for someone this self-centred.

You don’t need to teach a man how to treat you. The right man shows up already wanting to.

Keep dressing up. Keep being warm. Keep being you. Just give that energy to someone who’s actually thrilled to receive it.

[KeishaMartin]

This date reads like a cautionary tale drenched in disappointment but let’s turn up the heat and savor the scandal. You went out looking like a dream, every curve and detail calling for admiration, and he showed up like he just rolled out of the yard, fumbling through the night with zero charm, zero attention, zero spark. That remote snatch? That was less about controlling the TV and more a power move that screamed, “I don’t care about you, I care about me.” And honey, nothing kills desire faster than a man who can’t meet you halfway in the game of seduction. You deserve someone who melts when they see you, who whispers naughty little promises across the table, and whose every glance and touch sets your pulse racing, not someone who treats a first date like a casual Tuesday.

And let’s not tiptoe around the naughty fantasies that linger after a flop like this imagine Christmas lights twinkling in the background, festive parties all around, couples kissing under mistletoe, and you stuck replaying this sad excuse of a date, wondering if he’d even notice if you walked out with another admirer. Or picture a Christmas breakup: him fumbling with his coat while you saunter away, leaving him to pine by the fireplace alone, while you sip your hot cocoa knowing you deserve fireworks, not fumbles. Sweetheart, the spicy truth? Life’s too short for mediocre men, especially when your body craves attention, desire, and a touch that ignites you. Let the dud fade into the snow, and keep your nights sizzling with someone who can keep up with your fire.

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